When she called with the news, I felt helpless.
Here I was delighting in discovering my new hometown – a place with art, and
architecture, and music, and tourists – and my friend was hurting, miles away.
She had suffered one of those losses for which words are useless, and physical
gestures are the primary means through which you can show your support. Hugs. A
prepared meal. Comfortable silence. All things you can’t do from across the
country.
I considered sending flowers, but it felt wrong.
It wasn’t Valentine’s day, and she had never been one for flowers. Flowers die.
Giving her loss after The Loss would be like shining a spotlight on the
emotional ripples that would flow from this event over the next weeks.